Yep, you read that right… I’m not. Perfect that is. I cry, I get stuck, I get angry, I feel sorry for myself, I miss milestones and practice all kinds of self sabotaging behaviour. So how do you like me so far? Ready to hire me? Insert wide grin here and keep reading. This post is for all the rookie coaches out there struggling to make it. In fact, this post is for anyone struggling to adapt to a career shift or transition.

Several years ago you couldn’t have paid me to put this on paper let alone my blog. I had too much at stake (or so I thought). At first it was my fear of your judgment that held me back and then I realized that it was really my own judgment I was hiding from. I built a huge story around what a coach “should” look and be like. That story contained expectations of self that were impossible to meet because they left no room for my humanity. On the exterior I appeared strong, independent and successful which in some instances translated to disconnected, inauthentic and cold. GASP! My heart ached and I felt horribly misunderstood for inside I was experiencing fear, loneliness and despair, I craved connection and wanted to love and be loved. This had far reaching implications the least of which was a stalled marketing plan; evidence that I used to support my deepest fear that I could never be a coach. BREAKDOWN. My results told the story for my coach and with her gentle support I began to realize that loving all of me released the significance I had placed on “being perfect”. In fact, by being authentic and sharing my humanity with my friends, family and potential clients I created intimate connection and a safe space for others to do the same. BREAKTHROUGH. So be passionate about your pursuits, get supported when you’ve exhausted your own resources and remember…

“The authentic self is the best part of a human being. It’s the part of you that already cares, that is already passionate about evolution. When your authentic self miraculously awakens and becomes stronger than your ego, then you will truly begin to make a difference in this world. You will literally enter into a partnership with the creative principle.” Andrew Cohen