I get scared when I hear that North Korea wants to pummel the United States with nuclear weapons! Holy Crap!!!! I get scared that we’ll annihilate each other before we’ve had the chance to discover more about our world and that beyond us. Our world is an absolute freaking miracle and I get scared when the opportunity to exist inside this miracle comes under threat. War is an old conversation, how many times have we repeated it now? I don’t know about you but I’m done doing things “the same way” and expecting a different outcome. What I’m interested in is a complete shift and I know what it will take to change the world…
The work actually begins within us, each one of us… worldwide. We will create peace when we become at peace with ourselves. After all… hatred for another is just an outward expression of how we feel about ourselves. Haven’t you judged and/or gossiped about another only to realize that you’re actually feeling small within? When we conveniently point fingers over there, we get to shift responsibility for our own existence to others and temporarily we find relief from the horrible realization that we in fact are the source of our pain. Not others. It is us waging war on ourselves that creates war as a repeating theme. When we get righteous that our way IS the way, we are participating too… we shame others into joining our groups, doing it this way, becoming arrogant that our way is the only way. Guess what… now we’ve become part of the problem. When we practice condemnation instead of collaboration we are participating too. We see it and hear it every day in our politics… hate campaigns, smear campaigns all designed to take our focus away from what’s really at stake. A smoke screen standing in the way of possibility and the creation of a different outcome.
It takes something to be a stand for something different. It takes love, compassion and courage and the willingness to participate in something different. It will require us to give up some of the ways we’ve been taught. To lovingly let them go, we have outgrown those conversations, that way of being… that will not serve us now in this new emerging world.
As Brene Brown in her book, Daring Greatly so beautifully puts it… “As children we found ways to protect ourselves from vulnerability, from being hurt, diminished and disappointed. We put on armor; we used our thoughts, emotions and behaviors as weapons; and we learned how to make ourselves scarce, even to disappear. Now as adults we realize that to live with courage, purpose and connection – to be the person whom we long to be – we must again be vulnerable. We must take off the armor, put down the weapons, show up and let ourselves be seen.”
The way to peace begins with you and together we can create it. After all… we are one.
(Books that influenced this post include: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown; The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist; On The Breath of the Gods by Ariel Tomioka. Speakers that influenced this post include: Gabrielle Bernstein, Danielle LaPorte and Brene Brown.)